Simply, premature ejaculation is a sexual dysfunction. When this problem occur regularly it may have a massive impact of relationship. Read more about PE here or watch video below.
Premature Ejaculation – Understanding and Preventing It
You have probably heard horror stories of women complaining to their friends about their partners’ unsatisfactory performance in bed. Apparently, their partners don’t seem to know how to last longer in bed. Why, you might ask. Well, according to them, their partners ejaculate shortly after penetration,which leaves no time for the other partner to enjoy the intimate moment.
That condition shouldn’t really be considered surprising. It actually has a name – premature ejaculation. A study conducted a few years back showed that about 30% of men in the United States alone suffer from premature ejaculation. Considering that high percentage, it’s only logical to find out more about the condition – what it is, why it happens, how to prevent it, what are its risk factors and complications, as well as how it can be remedied.
What Is Premature Ejaculation?
As the term suggests, premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates sooner than is expected during sexual intercourse. In fact, it often happens with very little sexual stimulation, even before the sexual intercourse goes full throttle or soon after full penetration. It’s a common complaint from women. It’s not too concerning if it rarely happens. Nevertheless, if you’re a woman on the receiving end, it could be frustrating especially if it happens most of the time. Why is that?
Ejaculating prematurely normally cuts short the “in the zone” sexual drive of a man. As soon as he ejaculates, he’d feel a sense of “completion”, as he was able to achieve his release. This leaves the woman wanting and unable to satisfy her sexual desires.
Others might dismiss it as “mere excitement”, saying they ejaculated sooner than expected because they were too riled up. However, research showed that there are deeper factors that trigger premature ejaculation. Apparently, psychological and biological factors play a pivotal role in this condition.
The problem is many men are too embarrassed to admit that they suffer from it. They feel that talking about it or admitting it is a low blow to their manhood. They fail to realize (or perhaps understand) that, despite being a sexual dysfunction, premature ejaculation is a treatable condition.
If you ask your doctor how to prevent premature ejaculation, he would probably recommend medicines, counseling, various sexual techniques, or a combination of all these to hold back ejaculation. Heeding the advice of your doctor is crucial if you’re looking for ways on how to last longer in bed and improve your and your partner’s sex life.
However, before you start looking for remedies, your wisest course of action would be to find out the causes of premature ejaculation.
Causes of Premature Ejaculation
There are two classifications of premature ejaculation – lifelong and acquired. Lifelong premature ejaculation is the primary classification and is the term used to refer to the condition if it happens each or just about every time you have sexual intercourse. It would have to have happened on your very first sexual encounter for it to be deemed as a case of lifelong premature ejaculation.
Conversely, acquired premature ejaculation is the secondary classification, and while it manifests the same symptoms as the primary one, it develops only after several sexual encounters. This means you might have had sexual intercourses in the past without ejaculatory problems but recently had sex where you ejaculated prematurely.
Now you’re probably wondering, “Why do men suffer from premature ejaculation?” No matter if it is primary or secondary, you would surely want to know what causes it, seeing as how it’s a great source of concern for many men. The truth is no single doctor has been able to pinpoint the exact cause of premature ejaculation. Of course, earlier findings pointed to psychological factors as the main culprit behind the condition.
However, as science progressed, doctors were able to deduce that the causes of premature ejaculation are more intricate, even involving multifarious relations between both psychological and biological factors, which have been alluded to earlier in the article. Let’s crystallize each factor to see how they became probable causes of premature ejaculation.
Some doctors believe that your sexual experiences early in life may have instilled certain patterns in you that you might find hard to let go of as you get older. For instance, you might have had several sexual encounters in the past where you had to hurry to reach climax because you and your partner want to avoid being caught or discovered in a compromising situation. On the other hand, you might be having sex on the sly, which is why guilt feelings surround you, prompting you to hurry through the notions of sex.
Here are other factors that play a role in triggering premature ejaculation:
Being overly concerned or anxious about your sexual performance or other issues could take a toll on your body, causing you to ejaculate prematurely.
You have probably never experienced premature ejaculation in your past sexual relationships. In fact,you have had a satisfying sex life thus far, that is, until your most recent partner. You can’t seem to connect with her. Well, your interpersonal issues with your partner could be contributing to your inability to last longer in bed.
More often than not, men who are exceedingly concerned about getting an erection and maintaining it during sexual intercourse might unknowingly form a routine of rushing to ejaculate. Once the routine is formed, changing it would be difficult.
You may have a hard time relaxing and focusing during sexual intercourse because you’re experiencing emotional or mental strain in certain areas of your life.
You may rush to ejaculate, unknowingly, due to anxiety brought about by a chronic medical condition such as heart disease.
Of course, psychological factors are not the only culprit. Your physical makeup, or biological factors, can cause you to ejaculate prematurely, too. These include: Thyroid problems (some, not all) Irregular levels of hormone (yes, men have hormones too)
Uncharacteristic levels of neurotransmitters (brain chemicals) Certain genetically inherited traits Nerve damage incurred from surgery or trauma (this rarely is a factor, though) Infection and inflammation of the prostate or urethra
Should it be a Cause for Concern?
Earlier, it was mentioned that premature ejaculation is treatable although it’s considered a sexual dysfunction. That doesn’t mean, though, that you should downplay it. Yes, it’s not a cause of concern as far as the risk of health problems go. Nevertheless, it can take a considerable toll on your personal life.
For instance, it can cause relationship stress between you and your significant other. If you’re unable to hold back your ejaculation, you could be preventing your partner from achieving her orgasm or the climax of her sexual arousal. That could be frustrating. In addition, if you and your partner are trying to conceive, your condition could make fertilization hard, impossible even.
Hence, if you ejaculate sooner than you expect when having sex, take heed. Talk with your doctor right away. Don’t let pride get in your way of discussing your sexual health concerns with your doctor.
Yes, you might feel embarrassed, but you need the assurance of someone who is in the best position to assuage your concerns about premature ejaculation.
How to Prevent Premature Ejaculation
If you are determined to find out how to last longer in bed, you need to find out how to prevent premature ejaculation. Remember, the joy, success, and health of your and your partner’s sex life mostly hinges on your performance in bed.
So how can you prevent premature ejaculation? For one, you could try wearing a thicker condom (supposing both of you are not trying to conceive). Thicker condom walls can make the penis less sensitive. Second, you could ask your doctor for medications that could make your penis less sensitive. Third, you could try having sex with your woman on top since she would be in control of the movements; thus, there’s less pressure for you to thrust. Fourth, you could try to apply behavioral strategies like the “start-stop” and “squeeze” techniques.
What Is the “Start-Stop” Technique?
This technique is probably the simplest. It involves stimulating your penis and then stopping for 30-60 seconds once you feel your release building up. When you feel the release ebbing or if you feel you have regained control of the situation, start the stimulation again. You can repeat the process up to five times, stopping and resting each time you feel the waves of orgasm. After the fifth repetition, let yourself ejaculate.
Remember, though, to incorporate the start-stop technique seamlessly into the sexual act. Otherwise,you risk feeling inconvenienced and getting frustrated.
What Is the “Squeeze” Technique?
With the “squeeze” technique, you need to squeeze the area of the penis between the shaft and glans for about 30 seconds. You need to do this before you feel the ejaculation building up. The only downside to this is it might affect your erection until such time the penis is stimulated again. Like the start-stop technique, you need to repeat the process up to five times or until you decide to complete the orgasm.
If you’re bent on finding out how to last longer in bed, combine the two previously mentioned techniques with the following, with the intention of taking care of your partner:
Spend time on a longer foreplay, as this can increase your partner’s satisfaction and delay your ejaculation. Take a deep breath, as it can slow down ejaculation; thus, orgasm is delayed. When you feel the release building up, think about something else rather than getting to the point of no return.
Think of something boring, annoying, or distracting, anything to get your mind off the ejaculation.